Counselling and Clinical Supervision
How Does Counselling Work?
There is still some level of secrecy – certainly discomfort around counselling. It can feel quite daunting to acknowledge to ourselves that we need an ‘outsider’ to help us think through our problems.
Person centred counselling is all about the relationship between the counsellor and the client. The greater the trust that is built, the easier it is to be vulnerable and open in sessions together.
I call the first session a ‘suck it and see’ session because you and I will both be finding out about one another, how we ‘are’ and how we process. It’s the first step in beginning to relax and feel easy in one another’s company.
I know from experience how powerful counselling can be but I understand that this may be completely new for you so I can make you some promises about my behaviour which may help:
Firstly, I will try never to judge you but always to accept you.
Secondly, I will try always to be honest with you, to share my true feelings with you and not to hide or to pretend. I hope that when you see that I am genuine you will feel able to be honest with me too.
Thirdly, I will try to empathise with you. I want you to show me your situation and feelings so that I feel them and understand them from your perspective. I will check with you that I am doing so and trust you to correct me when I am wrong or if I misunderstand you.